Probably the most exciting part about a relationship is the initial stage when it’s just forming. There is so much uncertainty and anticipation during this time. Every little interaction between the nascent couple will be scrutinized. He said this what does it mean? He did that, what does it mean? This is fun for some — especially those on the outside looking in. However, for the couple involved, it can be quite difficult to bear and possibly devastating if it doesn’t work out. The user question I’m answering today has the author undergoing this phase now.

User DreamGirl doesn’t know it herself, but she’s fallen for a guy. Whether or not he’s into her is another question. There is reason for optimism however. Let’s have her explain:

There’s someone I like. Actually, I’m not entirely sure if I really like him or not. I’ve been thinking about him alot recently, when I see his picture on Facebook, I can’t help but smile and when he says nice things to me, I feel all happy inside. Normally, this is how people feel when they like someone right?
Anyway, I don’t know what I should do. We talk on a moderate level… You see, I take a train home from school every week day with my friends (mainly girls, some boys). Sometimes, he comes, most times, he doesn’t. Whenever he does, I try to talk to him and kinda be in contact with him. Whenever I see him, I always greet him with a big smile and an excited wave and he normally returns the smile with a more.. controlled wave.
He’s really nice to me, and despite not knowing very much about him, I can’t help but think about him. Gosh, I don’t even have his email…
I started to think about him more after he made this “confession” thing on facebook. (basically, people like your status and however many likes you get, that’s the number of confessions you have to make) In one, he said that I’ve appeared in his dreams the most this year… At first, that shocked me, and he later said that I was just kinda in his dream being excited as per usual.
A week or two after this, I’ve been looking at him for, purposely trying to see him and stuff. Plus, the other day, I had a dream where it seemed like he liked me, but I did something that blew him off so I ended up chasing after him in the dream. It was weird, but it made me feel nice inside at the thought of him liking me too..
Sorry, this is a lot to say. I’m kinda loading off all my thoughts! What do you think I should do? Should I do something, wait or just give up?! :O

It’s silly to think that DreamGirl is even asking me if she should give up on this guy. You don’t need to be a relationship advice guru to read that she’s fallen head over heels. If I had to make a wager, I would say he’s into her as well. I’m not a believer that dreams can be interpreted, but he hasn’t done anything to give her indication otherwise. A friend once told me, “A gamble of the heart is almost always worth the risk.”

DreamGirl, my advice to you is to definitely do something. Call me old-fashioned, but I don’t think girls should be too aggressive. It lets guys think you’re easy and they’re more likely to not respect you. Without knowing much about this guy, I would say you to need to gradually increase the level of personal detail in your conversations with him. Share embarrassing stories, career aspirations, and other private details. Most likely he will reciprocate. If you can get to him to open up to you, the chances of a relationship happening increases significantly. Also spend more time with him, be it during school, after school, or on weekends. Get his phone number and email already. Or be somewhat forward and enter yours into his phone and tell him to call you. As I was telling StarryEyed, get this relationship off Facebook and start talking to him in real time. In general, have more points of interaction with him. Not only will this help him like you more, but you’ll also get to know him better.

One useful tip that works for me: When you talk to him in person, look him in the eyes. Do it as often as you can. If he doesn’t look away or feel uncomfortable, then he’s surely into you. However, don’t read it negatively if he doesn’t as it could also mean that he’s a shy person.

I genuinely hope this works out DreamGirl. Write me again to let us know what happens. Good Luck!

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