Taylor Swift works hard to get what she wants when it comes to her career, but she certainly does not do any less when it concerns her love life.

“I can’t deal with someone wanting to take a relationship backward or needing space or cheating on you,” she discussed during her interview with Cosmopolitan for the December issue. “It’s a conscious thing: it’s a common sense thing. … I just don’t ever want to end up in a relationship that isn’t fair ever again.”

She also needs some chemistry as she has said, “I need that unexplainable spark. I just need to see someone and feel oh, no, uh-oh. It’s only happened a few times in my life, but I feel like if I was gonna be with someone forever, it would be because I saw them and I thought, Oh, no.”

So that’s where her songs come from…