I’ve coined some new lingo with my suitemate today that I think will be useful to every girl who’s ever been involved with a guy and then had to recreate their relationship with him on a platonic level. There’s no word in the English language to describe that kind of relationship - a friend and an ex but more complicated, more bittersweet. So we’ve decided that these kinds of guys are sour patch kids. Read on to see why:

Last year I dated a guy who was all kinds of crazy and made me all kinds of crazy (good and bad). We ended horribly - the kind of breakup that involves a lot of bad language, secrets coming out that should never be revealed, facebook blocking, and months of silent treatment. And now seven months later we’re talking again and trying to be friends. It’s impossible for us to ever be friends the way we’re friends with other people - we’ve hurt each other too much for full trust and seen too much of the other person for full platonicity. It’s impossible for us to ever be lovers again because there’s too much damage. But the chemistry existed for a reason so it’s fun to be around him.
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Tags: boys, ex, friend, relationship, sour, sour patch kid, sweet, tangy

So you are probably sale shopping your little heart out today, since it is THE shopping day of the year. But of all the people on your shopping list, come on, the boys are the least fun to shop for. So I have compiled a list of fun gifts that hip guys will actually use/wear. And best of all, if they don’t like it, you can use/wear it yourself! Best of all, you can order everything online at www.starsandinfinitedarkness.com, which is one of the hippest online indie boutiques there is on the web. So sit back, relax, and whip out your plastic.

1) Steel Couture: Rubber Chainmail Cuff v08 for Men- $52
This is an edgy cuff for guys who like some accessories. It is 130 industrial strength rubber and steel rings woven together for a manly look. But I’d still wear it!
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Tags: boys, cufflinks, gifts, ipod, jacket, leash, men, tshirt, wallet

Here’s another article written by AmpedAsia on relationships. This one I found a little more agreeable; however, again some are just a no.

10. Be playful.
When I read this I thought they meant ditzy but if you read the description they mean you need to joke around. I guess the better phrase would be, be flirtatious.

9. Smell good.
You shouldn’t stink in the first place!

8. Be feisty.
Reading the description, it says play hard to get. I can’t agree with it because you shouldn’t be feisty, you should be strong. Don’t let a guy walk all over you but don’t walk all over him either.
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Tags: amped asia, boys, flirt, relationships

I’ve recently been using some acronyms around my girl friends to gossip about boys and relationship issues that I have to stop and define because they’ve never heard it used before. Here are a few shorthands, some common knowledge and some not, that are in my vocabulary and have made talking about these things that much easier/funnier ;)

OTP - On the Prowl
Ex. My boyfriend and I just broke up so I’m back OTP.

DTR - Define the Relationship
Ex. I’ve been hooking up with this guy but I don’t know what he’s thinking. Is it time to DTR?

LDR - Long Distance Relationship
Ex. LDRs are tough but I believe they can work if both sides are fully committed and the LD will end in some foreseeable future.

SO - Significant Other
Ex. Boyfriends, husbands, fiancees, etc.

PDA - Public Display of Affection
Ex. He’s not big into PDA, but it’s not ridiculous of me to want to hold hands in public sometimes, right?

TLC - Tender Loving Care; ISO - In Search Of
Ex. I’m ISO TLC.
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Tags: acronym, affection, boys, care, girltalk, love, relationship

If you didn’t know, I lived in Asia for the majority of my life before I moved to New York. I didn’t quite get into the Asian pop culture until I moved to New York (funny how that worked out) so you can only imagine how disappointed I am that I missed out on all the fun! Setting aside my regret, I very much love APop (Asian Pop) and even more so the hot Asian guys.

I recently had a conversation with a friend (who lives in Korea) that also loves APop like I do. We start talking about a Korean band called DBSK and well that’s what lead me to this post.

Here are my top fave Asian celebrity boys.
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Tags: asian, boys, celebrities, fab faves, japan, jung yunho, kim jae joong, korea, lee junki, oguri shun, prince hisahito

Remember that boy I mentioned a little over a week ago? Well the waiting game paid off in this case and we’re together now! :D

The Carrie Bradshaw problem, however, has not disappeared at all. In fact, it’s an even bigger problem now because I know for a fact he reads this (to my horror and delight). Sucks for me and Tiffany right? Although on the flipside this could be an interesting venue through which I converse indirectly with him and play mindgames heh ;P

So with that in mind I thought I’d talk about the pacing problem (a first of many problems, relationships are a bittersweet struggle like that): How fast is too fast?

On one hand when two people like each other it’s tempting to want to spend lots of time together and get to know each other as soon as possible because it’s like a really good novel with tons of mystery so you want to read as quickly as possible. But on the other hand moving quickly often means rushing into things that shouldn’t be rushed and destroying a lot of the fun of experiencing things in small quantities to give time for adjusting and maintaining an independent life.
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Tags: boys, carrie bradshaw, dating, initiative, pacing, relationships

I met a boy last night and was going to blog about the waiting game (i.e. how long you wait until the phone rings) on GirlyBubble until I realized that I had told him about this blog and anything I said here would essentially nullify the game! In fact I am already in danger of ruining the game already for having just said that much… I really hope he’s not silly enough to actually take a look at this thing o_O

How does Carrie Bradshaw do it? She writes a column that draws from her love life and yet never seems to fear that the guys she writes about will read it and alter the course of the dating game. The fun of romantic interests, after all, relies pretty heavily on two parties not really knowing what the other party is thinking and trying to gauge it. And if you’re writing about a certain topic in a public space and refering to real guys in your life, said personas can probably figure out you’re talking about them and get an unfair advantage of what’s going on in your head regarding the situation.

Then again maybe I haven’t watched enough Sex and the City to really know how she does it. But however she does, I need to know or else all of that is off limits and seriously, what’s girlier than boy gossip?!? A girly blog is clearly not complete without it =P

Tags: blog, boys, carrie bradshaw, column, dating, sex and the city, waiting game